Jweik84
New Member
Join Date: Jun 2005
Posts: 7 I need advise, bad. I'm realy confused.
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Ok lemme refresh my story a little, since its been awhile since I've posted here.
I dated this girl in my hometown for 1 year. I got her pregeant when I was 15. While she was 4 months pregeant I caught her cheating on me. It kinda messed up my trust and
self esteem issues.
Anyways I moved to a different city and met this girl, Elaine. At first it was THE BEST relationship I could have wanted. Then she she did some things that i disagreed with, while we were drunk. It wasnt cheating, or anything close too it. This made me not trust her at all, + the fact that I had been cheated on before. So we started doing nothing. We stayed in my room, or her room all night. This went on until the summer of her graduation, when she dumped me a day before her last day of school. Her excuse was because I didn't want too do anything. I was heartbroken, but at the same time I know i messed up. I still feel the same way for her as I did when we were dating, we dated for 2.5 years.
We haven't had much contact at all in the past year. Every now and then she would call when shes drunk or something at like 12 or 1 am. I never answered it because i knew it would just hurt too talk to her.
She has a new boyfriend, and has been with him for about a year.
So I started feeling better, and not missing her as much. Now tuesday was my 21st birthday. I was at work ( I Still work for her uncle) and she calls too wish me a happy birthday. I had ran up to the store so I didn't get her message. She dropped in on her lunch break and wished me a happy birthday and gave me a hug. She told me I should come up to her work after I got off. I did. I Went up there and we chatted a little bit, nothing serious. As i was leaving she told me I should call her tonight so we could hang out because she didn't have anything too do.
Later that night, While i was drinking (it was my 21st birthday!) I called her. She didn't answer. An hour later she called my friends cell phone and asked too talk to me. She asked where we were at so i Told her outside my house. She came over and we hung out for like 10 minutes. Then somehow we started to wrestle. After I helped her get up, she gave me a hung, then a kiss on the cheeck, then she moved too my mouth and started making out with me. After the kiss, I asked her how her and her boyfriend was doing. Somehow the subject got onto cheating, and she said she's cheated on her boyfriend with like 4 or 5 guys. She said that she had been doing drugs too. We chatted about all that and I told her shes better then that. She told me we should talk when we were sober (She was prolly just saying that because she was drunk.) then she Said she was going to leave because if she didn't, we would have sex.
This devisatated me. She went downhill after we broke up, and I'd like to know why. In your opinion, why would she cheat on her boyfriend, she didn't cheat on me. She was loving with me. She didn't do drugs. Infact, I told her once when we were going out that I had a coke problem before we met. She said if I ever did that while dating her she would never talk too me again. Now I find out that shes tryed it. This isn't her. When she was with me she was a Straight A student, and wasnt slutty like that. Now she has no plans to go to college and she does stupid crap when shes under the influence.
I want too help her, But I Don't know how. I would like too get back with her, but not like this. feelings aside, I just want too help her. Shes acting like a slut and I don't know how to help her. As I said, I still work for her uncle. Her uncle and myself are pretty close, and I didn't know who to go to so i went too him and told him what his niece had been doing. I asked him not too tell anyone.
What can I do?
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